“Indecision and delays are the parents of failure”. George Canning surely must have known a thing or two about decision making when he made that statement. I’d go a step further and say that even a wrong decision is better than indecision.
Let’s analyze that statement. Assume you are in a position of control. When you’re in a position of control, you are solely responsible for the success or failure of that decision. Basically, you have to make a decision to give your life a direction. At this point, you can do two things –
- You can either make a decision with conviction and fearlessness or
- You can stay indecisive and wait for circumstances/other people to do the decision making for you.
The former approach makes you independent and gives you the authority of your life. It instills a sense of confidence in you that no matter what the result, you’ll only gain from the situation. It’ll either be a good decision or a good lesson. People with such an optimistic attitude more often than not turn out to be successful.
Because these people know that action cures fear. They firmly believe that making 10 wrong decisions is basically eliminating 10 ways that don’t work for them. This way they are far ahead of people who haven’t even made a decision fearing what if they went wrong.
The latter approach makes you fearful and dependent. Because you delay making a decision and wait for external factors to do it for you, you constantly second guess yourself and let other people’s opinions of you take centre stage as your gut instinct takes a backseat. As a result, you blame your failures arising from those decisions generally on “life”, “people” or “bad luck”.
You escape from taking responsibility and lack a sense of leadership. Hence, you are never in control of your life and have a pessimistic attitude in general which breeds failure. You are stuck in an indecisive stagnant state and are not evolving or progressing in life.
Why Do We Fear Making Wrong Decisions?
As human beings, we are wary of failure. After all who wants to make mistakes or fail in life? We associate pain and sadness with wrong decisions. Therefore, there is this constant urge to be on the safe side, to avoid making decisions and to gather as much data and facts that’ll ensure you make the right decision.
So we keep researching, analyzing, and consulting people in a bid to be certain about a particular decision. We feel that all these precautions will help us avoid pain and failure. Our brain tricks us into this psychological fear and illusion that a wrong decision will hurt us and that it’s better to wait until the “perfect time” to make the right decision.
But this indecision is even more detrimental to our health than making the wrong decision. The amount of time wasted and stress endured to avoid making the wrong decision is the same as the amount of time wasted and stress endured on making the wrong decision.
There is no such thing as the “perfect time” to get it right. The perfect time is always now. You’ll never succeed if you don’t start. Take your chance. Make a decision and then see where it takes you.
A decision, even if wrong, takes you forward in life. It helps you to learn from your mistake, absorb the lesson, and evolve into a more experienced and better version of yourself. As a wise man once said – “There’s no better teacher than failure”.
Getting Rid Of Indecision In Our Daily Life
Indecision is not something that we have reserved just for important events in life. The inability to make a decision has crept into our daily life as well. A prime example of it is deciding what to eat for dinner. You’ll agree with me that deciding on the kind of food you want to eat takes more time & effort than actually going to the place and eating the food.
Firstly, you have to choose what to eat from the 5 options that are available at home. Secondly, there are 50 other restaurants and cafes offering various cuisines in case you choose to go outside and eat. Furthermore, there are at least 50 options to choose from, in the food menu of each restaurant.
Now if you sit down to carefully analyze each option to objectively decide the best one for you, then you’ll probably end up staying hungry until breakfast the next morning.
The trick is to just order the first food option that comes to your mind. Once you’ve made the decision, your mind is focussed on the food you’ve ordered and your body craves that food as well. As a result, all other options are eliminated automatically from your psyche and you are not engulfed by the fear of missing out on better food options.
Because no matter what you order, you’ll always miss out on something else unless you have the appetite of a dinosaur and wealth of a millionaire. Fear Of Missing Out also called FOMO in millennial lingo is another reason why we avoid making decisions.
So instead of spending your valuable time and energy – analyzing and getting emotionally drained, make a decision, and stick to it. You’ll be surprised how this helps you build your decision-making instinct and saves your time.
Decision Making Can Be a Game Changer
When you make a decision, you give yourself an opportunity to succeed. You give your idea a chance to materialize. That’s why if you’re given a fantastic opportunity and you’re not sure whether to take it or leave it, I’d say take it. What’s the worse that could happen? You’d make a mess of it. Right?
But what if you learned along the way, got better at it by working on your flaws, and used the experience gained from it as a stepping stone to bigger things. You’d be in a commanding position in life only because you had the courage to make the decision.
Take Richard Branson and his “Virgin Atlantic airline” venture for example. Virgin had initially been a part of the music industry as Virgin Records and Richard had no idea how to run an aviation business. People around had predicted failure and bankruptcy for the airline, calling his decision to venture into aviation business as “self-destructive and hasty”.
However, look where he is currently. He owns more than 400 companies today. In fact, he was also granted “Knighthood” at Buckingham Palace for his services to entrepreneurship. He made mistakes, learned along the way, devised new methods of operation, and ultimately succeeded in making Virgin Atlantic Airlines a hugely successful firm. Therefore, making a decision turned out to be a game-changer for Richard Branson.
I can give you another example of how decision making can be a game-changer if you feel the previous one is too fantastical and far-fetched. 3 years back, I took the decision to move to Dubai to perform in a Broadway-style Bollywood musical as the male lead actor.
The monotony of performing the same musical show day in and day out resulted in me taking a break and going on my first solo trip to Spain. I was bitten by the wanderlust bug and that led me to travel all across the world. I decided to document my travels and eventually became a travel-blogger, establishing my travel blog “The Wandering Vegetable”, with the aim of exploring every country on this planet!
Conclusion
Decision making can be hard. You don’t know if the decision will turn out to be right or wrong. You can feel overwhelmed and alone in the unpredictability of it all. But you’d rather decide, make things happen, go wrong, learn from the process and progress in life than sit on the sidelines, lean on the shoulder of security and see opportunities go by as others grab them.
Decisions are what shape our lives. They make us who we are and provide us with the best education in life on par with any university in the world. So go ahead and take that decision because to decide is to move ahead in life and even a wrong decision is better than indecision.
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34 comments
I tend to be indecisive and have been working on changing that for a while. A meaningful and positive analogy here that can help me move along in that process without being gripped by the fear of failure. Thanks!
Oh wow I love this!! I never thought about it like that. There have been so many situations in my life where I was stuck in between- being a silent spectator and waiting for things to happen and taking charge. Always taking charge after getting to understand this perspective.
Super interesting post. So true it’s better to make a decision and do something than it is not to. You’d rather regret than die wondering afterall!
Delays are something that I can’t afford. I rather make drastic decisions and learn from it’s consequences, than delaying it. It is more fun learning.
I agree with you. Better take a step than not do anything. Yolo right?
Absolutely!
This is exactly like fear of failure and not trying at all rather than trying and failing. I love this post!
When someone comes to your blog and read your 1st two lines, you already gained the trust of em 🙂 Being real, telling the trust is a great way of success.
I agree with you 🙂 Happy blogging.
Of course making a bad decision is better than no decision at all, at least that way you can learn what you did wrong and improve upon it, although sometimes decisions are not easy, as just doing the first thing that comes to mind, sometimes adequat thinking of all the possible scenarios is needed.
I can be so indecisive at times. We are in the process of renovating our home and some of the changes are permanent that I am afraid to make the wrong decisions. So far though, we have made the great decisions. I hope it stays that way.
You are so right. Being indecisive also goes hand in hand with procrastination and we end up doing nothing in the end. Great article!
Totally agree. Something is better than nothing. Wrong decisions teach great lessons about life.
Usually, we learn from our bad decisions, so they aren’t ever wasted. So many indecisive people never follow through on the first few steps of their dreams. Deciding what you want and making a plan to achieve those goals is never wrong–you may just take a detour or two along the way.
that is very true! better now than never! You’d rather do than die wondering.
Your indecisiveness should gradually change over time. You should be able to make decisions and learn from every wrong decision you make.
Love those words from George Canning. I tend to be indecisive but it’s better to fuck up and get up to try again than just sit and see life passing me by!
Love this. I’m one of those people who ponder on a decision for days.. I don’t like throwing caution to the wind for many reasons, some of which you listed. A while ago, I started acknowledging the fact that I have missed so many opportunities that could have been game changers for me, just because I never made a decision or I made it too late. Brilliant post!! Xx
I am a researcher-type person by nature, and use to be a very indecisive person, too. I thinkthe researcher side of me could always say, “I’m looking into it”, but never have to go forward with an actual decision. I have come a long way! I agree with this article completely! Great post!
Great post! Indecision has kept many from achieving their goals. I like the way you explain everything here❤
I agree with the people who have commented before me. It is not so easy to do the right thing, but never lose the hope. This is the life and we have only one.
Thanks for sharing it! – Paolo
I think being wrong is ok – if you work hard and if you have your goals set. It eventually works out for you.
I love this! I am one of the worse decision makers there is. I have come to accept that and start to go with my first instinct when it comes to living life, and not allow myself too much time to think about it.
“a good decision or a good lesson” I like that. It’s very true and thinking that way can help start acting instead of being indecisive.
I love making the decisions, even big ones for our family. My husband is so indecisive sometimes but we even each other out!
I like this post. Indecision is paralyzing — you have to make decisions to move forward. If they are wrong, you learn and keep moving! Great post!
Oh this is so true! I remember in my 20’s when I couldn’t make a decision over the simplest things because I considered other people’s opinions too much. My husband has helped me to feel more confident in standing in my own decisions and worrying less about what other people think. It has been the most liberating area of growth in my life!
The wrong decision is AT LEAST something you can learn from! AmI’right!
Absolutely Kaitlyn!
I agree with this to a point. I think to not make a decision is a decision in itself. And it’s trying to disown the decision we make. Which never leads to happiness. Better to make a decision and find out it’s the wrong one later… provided the consequence won’t be fatal.
Good tricks for focusing. I have been to the grocery store and walked around far too long trying to decide what to buy. Next time I’ll go with what I think of first.
I think so, too. Some people are playing it safe though because they don’t want to be blamed. The ending — too many things get put off because of indecisiveness.
Sometimes it is good to make mistakes. It does not make you weak, but it makes you stronger.
I didn’t think I would become more anxious about making decisions as I grew older. It’s like I have become less forgiving of myself for making mistakes. Thank you for sharing your insights.
Our maturity sometimes makes us less impulsive and more analytical and anxious when it comes to decision making. We want to constantly play it safe. I know it’s easier said than done but we got to work on being a bit more carefree and befriend risk-taking. Can’t expect results you’ve never had by doing the things the way you always have. You’re welcome Tanya!